For men, relationships can be a source of security and happiness, but there are times when they present us with difficult emotional challenges and significant distress. Sometimes we deal with those challenges well, but there are times when we don’t have the skills to navigate through them. That’s why we need to speak to a psychologist or counsellor who is trained and experienced in working with men’s issues.
Our society raises men to become familiar with one emotion in particular, and that is anger. Through anger, men attempt to get a multitude of needs met, but are often unsuccessful in doing so. If they expresses vulnerability, they risk appearing weak or incompetent, so they meet lifes emotional challenges like a warrior with a shield in one hand, and a spear in the other. The shield protects and hides their fear of rejection, abandonment or of appearing incompetent, and the spear, which is often the only tool they have, is used to attack those they perceive as the enemy.
At Staying Connected Counselling, we specialise in working with men who have issues with anger, depression, anxiety, self-esteem and relationship and family breakdown. If you are troubled by any of the above, please give us a call. You don’t have to deal with any of these issues on your own. We can help.